When I took high school geometry, our teacher was clear with us, we would not get full credit if we didn't show your work. As you may remember, when solving a proof in geometry, the process is just as important as the outcome.
Communication is no different. Many of the challenges I deal with in family businesses and family offices stem from one family member holding a point of view (the outcome) without articulating a clear why behind that point of view (the process).
A great example of this surfaced recently when a client walked me through - in exquisite detail - why he was frustrated with his family. He asked what he should do; I asked him if he had told his family what he had just told me. He had not. I encouraged him to show his work by explaining his thinking and frustrations to his family members so they could better understand why he was feeling what he was feeling.
While I don’t encourage you to verbalize absolutely everything that’s in your head, I would encourage you to start developing the skill of showing others your work; I guarantee it's a proof that will deepen all your relationships.
"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."
<br/><span class="body-2 opacity-80" style="padding-top:0.75rem">~George Bernard Shaw</span>
"If you have an important point to make, don't try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time - a tremendous whack."
<br/><span class="body-2 opacity-80">~ Winston Churchill</span>
"Number one, cash is king... number two, communicate... number three, buy or bury the competition."
<br/><span class="body-2 opacity-80">~ Jack Welch</span>
